MIL is just going to have to accept it eventually and she should know by now that DH and I don't always do things conventionally. For instance, she was really upset we didn't get married in a church (we did it at a botanical conservatory) and she thinks we're too hard on DD3 (but DD understands what we expect of her, even if she is just 3) and we have different educational views about our children.
My mother is surprisingly very supportive about DD3 and her educational needs. Once DM saw what DD can do, she was shocked (I am GT, but I didn't do early stuff as a preschooler like DD so this is all new to DM). So at least I have one parent on board with our decisions.
In the grand scheme of things, MIL just needs to get with the times. She's only 56, yet she acts like she's 96. In fact, I've had 96-yr-old patients who act younger than her. She does not adapt to change very well at all -- they still have a console TV, no internet (they only have a computer because we gave it to them), e-mail is unthinkable, etc. It takes MIL a LONG time to accept anything new, if she ever does. That's a tough way to go through life, I would think.
