When my kids play competitive chess, I don't ask them if they won when they walk out of the room, but rather if they had fun, worked hard, concentrated well, and behaved as good sports. I don't know if that sinks in, but I try.
I can only imagine your kids will benefit from your teaching them these values G3. I really think that playing chess with different levels of players has given both DS and DD some great life lessons, more than they will get in the classroom. In addition to learning to have fun even though they're losing a game, they found that there will always someone more skilled who can beat them. But they also learned that losing a game is the only way to improve their skills. I love that their coach tells that playing against stronger players is the best way to get better. DD(almost 5) now doesn't have a tantrum when DS6 beats her
