Hi again all,
Grinity, I completely agree about the last two years - in retrospect we absolutely should have changed the situation sooner. I've been so caught up in denial/tring to process everything/comimg to a position that I haven't been thinking clearly. I know there a people who think I'm crazy for worrying about the work habits and self-image of a six year old, but I do believe that some damage has been done.
On the other hand, Cym I also believe that he's probably capable of moving quickly if/when in the appropriate setting. One hopes. We had a breakthough the other day - for the first time he actually asked me what a word was!! "Break" I said. Oh, okay... "I will break you." Sweet.