it is lovely, kcab...and I know this is going to plateau and we'll need more change. But for now, ds has actually learned some things in school, has come home excited, and feels, I think, vindicated and relieved. He wrote a love poem! he used to write poems but hadn't in more than a year. And this morning he was up and dressed and ready for school before we were even out of bed! And maybe not surprisingly, but I hadn't thought of it - he's been surprisingly kind to his brother. Like encouraging him, praising him. Maybe he just has felt too bad recently to be able to try to make others feel better. I'll have to remember this when it gets rough again...I'm assuming his growing up is going to be a long start-and-stop, better and worse process.
