We sent our DS8 to preschool when he was 4. The environment at the school he attended was pretty rigid, and he had a hard time. He was reading by then, and his teachers didn't know how to react to that. When I innocently told them he could read (mostly expecting them to help him), all I got was blank looks.
My advice, especially if you think your daughter may not be fully ready, is to look for a school with a nurturing outlook rather than an academic outlook. My impression of the academics-focused preschools and kindergartens is that they're more rigid and also less likely to be flexible to the needs and abilities of giftred kids. It's kind of the opposite of what you expect based on the marketing material, but (at least where I live) the nurturing places tend to be better about recognizing giftedness and gifted needs.
Hve you thought about in-home day care? If you can find a good day care provider, the experience can be wonderful. Our day care provider does a preschool program that involves lots of cutting and pasting and painting. She also gives the kids a lot of practice at writing letters and numbers.
Val
