Newbie- fist post. Thanks for having me.

So, I have spent the last year in the dyslexia trenches. Fighting the school, then testing and proof positive on dyslexia and dysgraphia, then comes the 504 and OG therapy outside of school. I am exhausted.

Here's my newest problem: I know he is gifted but I can't prove it. The school doesn't see it because of his disabilities, his scores are scattered at school and on on his dyslexia assessments (he's had two.) For instance, his OWLS was at 116, above average for language comprehension skills but the CTOPP-2 scores are as low as 76 for phonological memory (5th percentile). This assessment was free through Scottish Rite and they did not take time to explain it nor did they administer an IQ test. None of the testing has ever been with accommodations which is why I think the school's criteria for gifted class was missed (also it was pre-diagnosis and his 2nd grade teacher called him lazy a lot.)

The school advised me against re-testing for gifted now that he is in 3rd grade because if they pull him for testing and he doesn't qualify it will hurt him more. Also, they said he probably would be a good fit but that they 'probably don't have the time and ability to accommodate' him. He's so bored in school and is able to do so much more when accommodidated.

He comes home thinking he is stupid when I know he is smarter than most. He has been helping me solve problems since pre-K. His logic is very advanced. His math skills are great. He listens to and understands audio books for high school aged kids and is able to recall anything he hears despite having terrible working memory. Audiobooks speak to him.

Do I go for outside testing and request the school to place him in gifted? They said they would have to take outside test results to the board for approval and they have only done that 2 times in 30 years.

What if I fight to get him in gifted and he fails because they won't accommodate him? Am I forcing something I shouldn't? The school's program is for high achievers and is not truly gifted, in my observations.

I am unable to place him in private school or homeschool, as much as I would love to do both.

Thanks for listening.