Sorry to hear of the bad experience with Montessori. I'm really surprised to hear that it was loud and chaotic, as one of the things that drew my son to the Montessori he eventually attended for preschool was the calm, quiet environment. He'd been overwhelmed when we visited the "in" preschool that everyone raved about- it was extremely loud and busy. He spent the whole visit clinging to my leg. Not so at the Montessori, as he felt comfortable enough to grab a rug and start right in on a puzzle.
Of course any school can say that they are Montessori...
