My DS17 can be this way & I know how frustrating it is. And the best way i found towards dealing with this is to make myself out of the equation as often as possible. Sometimes it's not possible for various reasons including safety, ownership, or importance. And then either stepping back & taking a break or telling her she isn't ready for such a project is necessary.
In the case of this craft project. Let her do it HER way, by herself. If she messes is up.. she messes it up. IMO she will learn more by messing up the craft panda than doing a perfect job. And craft projects are the perfect place to learn this kind of thing.
And yes.. if all it's doing is frustrating her & her fit about it is disturbing the rest of the household. By all means take it away & tell her she can't work on it unless she can calm herself down.
