One of my dc is a lot like this, and we deal with it by ignoring rude, snarky remarks. When she needs help, if she's not respectful to the family member helping her, then we stop helping. Simple as that.
With our dd, it's a need to feel like she's in control, as well as wanting to be sure that she's seen as capable as anyone else. She doesn't act this way at school or other places because she's trying to look good to others - good behavior, good student etc. At home, her feelings tend to bounce right out with no filter - but there are also a few clues we see too - she's able to keep better control of her emotions when she's not tired or hungry or otherwise stressed. We can't control every tiny bit of stress in her life, but we keep healthy snacks handy and when she does overreact to something like this, we ask her if she's hungry. If we think she's tired, we suggest putting whatever it is aside until tomorrow or some later time when she will be less tired.
I explain it's better to watch the whole thing and get an overview, then go step by step.
Just curious - why? I think this is more personal preference than a hard-set rule re how to approach putting together something new. I understand that this might not lead to her successfully assembling the panda, but when you give her a video to watch to figure out something, I'd let her decide how to watch.
Best wishes - personalities like this can be really tough to parent!
polarbear
