Also - I would say too, make it important to talk to your DD and let her know you are listening to her and working on finding a solution. She is talking to you now and I like to think that means she still feels there is a chance for her situation to change for the better. It is when they clam up that the issues could get even more serious because the last thing you want is for them to give up hope that this misery will end or lose their love of learning.