This is a tough one, but my suggestion is you also consider that the teachers may be doing a bad job creating a good environment for your daughter. The reason I suggest this is because of the way she is repeating these things from the school counselor and teacher which seem to reflect a feeling that she does not belong there. It is not her job to belong, but that is a classroom management issue.
Another thought is that could could take her out of school till she is older but still have her be accelerated into an older grade. She probably would still learn quite a bit just reading at home.
