Hi Rosa,
Your situation sounds a lot like mine.

I'm still navigating school so I may not the most helpful, but do know that you are not alone. We did end up testing and while so far the school has not changed much of their curriculum, they are allowing us to drop off late and pick early for enrichment opportunities that we do outside of school.

Testing has also given me peace of mind in knowing my instincts were right.

Good Luck!