This is a constant struggle with DS6.

DS6 is perfect behavioral-wise at school, most of the behavioral issues are at home.

I read Explosive Child as suggested by many on this board. I changed my own attitude toward DS from him not wanting to behave to him not knowing *how to* behave, and we read social stories that are applicable to our situations.

All these made a huge difference for DS! DS is far from perfect behavioral-wise and this is still a work-in-progress, but this has such a positive impact on him and the family dynamic.

Good luck and you are not alone!