What Dude and MoN said.


You might look up my very first post on the forum, made when my DD was eleven.

We made some SERIOUS changes in our approach as parents, and her situation improved once she accepted that we are on her side.

We are NOT trying to shave bits of her rough edges off to make her fit in with a monolithic and inappropriate set of demands. We were willing to step in and help HER to get what she NEEDED.


Schrödinger's cat walks into a bar. And doesn't.