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I think that socio-behavioral expectations for girls, and their ability (as a group) to use those expectations to appear more normative (from both ends of the bell curve) are huge factors.

In my experience this is very true. Boys act up, girls conform. When it's up to the parents they act on behalf of their sons (in general), seeking out alternative options then when pressed to test the sister, discover they're in the same IQ range.