I remember there was a specific incident with mom friends when DD was around 12 months. I won't go into details but the silence was deafening. I learned then to not say anything about DD's development. It was so confusing for me since I was convinced back then that DD was delayed compared to her cousin.
As far as interests go, DD4 is a nerdy 8 year old boy and I'm around a lot of 8 year old boys so DD seems "normal" to me, just not for her age. That's how I explain DD to other parents if they ask me why she can read, do math, etc. I never use the word gifted.
BTW, I find having a musically talented child to be as challenging as having a child who is academically advanced. Some parents are extremely competitive about musical progress and it can be a scary world out there.
