I wanted to update this thread - finally achieved success with memorizing multiplication facts.

So many of you had great suggestions. Unfortunately none of them really peaked DD's interest. She got over her fright of bigbrainz but the timing issue was causing meltdowns so we stopped that too.

Meanwhile in school, she was grouped with the kiddos who have their multiplication facts down (1st grade), which got her interested in memorizing them again. I heard about "Timestales" from another forum and it's amazing..it worked!! It uses the mnemonic memory method.
http://www.amazon.com/Times-Tales-D...7953&sr=1-2-catcorr&keywords=times+tales

She watched it last week and by the next day she had memorized her upper multi. facts and recall is getting quicker by the day.