Madoosa, you are here. So you are not truly alone! Many of us are here for you. We are cheering for you and your DC!!!
Truthfully, the idea of IQ testing my DC, before we did it - kind of creeped me out. IQ testing, however, in one of its forms, is actually pretty inevitable in our local schools. We waited to test until we needed it for school or special programs. One test is one snapshot, but for a very bright DC, it can be POWERFUL. It is a TOOL. It can be a snapshot for others of what it is that you see every day that is DIFFERENT than the norm. I am no longer creeped out by the testing, although I do NOT think it is a be-all-end-all; rather, it is something objective (beyond my maternal gut-feelings) that can qualify my DC for services that they NEED.
Also, my DC have been fortunate. The testing tools DID capture their gifts. I DO think that there are other DC out there with gifts and talents that are NOT well-measured with the currently-available testing.
IRL, I am VERY secretive about my DC's test scores. This is the ONLY place where I feel like I can discuss my DC! Here, my DC seem "normal"! But yes, I understand. Not having any IRL people to discuss your children with can feel very isolating.
Your DC indeed sound unique and special - if you decide to test them, NOTHING can take away from them what it is that you are seeing. The tests themselves are just a one tool and just one one snapshot in time.
We do not homeschool, but many here do. I am sure that many of us here, though, wish to be a supportive "community" for you and your family - even though we may be far away!
