I am not even sure how to word this, but I am having several freak out moments lately and I am really hoping that someone here can tell me honestly that this is "normal" in this situation and that it will work out okay.
My oldest had a traumatic time at school and just over 2 years ago we took him out of grade0 (K) for 9 months of therapy, followed by a long period of self acceptance before he started wanting to learn again about 10 months ago. He has blossomed at home, but we have still not been totally sure about what level of work would provide adequate challenge. Finally this weekend he accidentally discovered a Cambridge Pre-IGCSE maths book (grade 8/9) that a friend of mine got for her 11 year old son to use at home. He gleefully exclaimed that he could do some of the things, and tht the rest was new and looked to be challenging "finally!". He assumed it was his and asked when we could start.
I chatted to DH and we decided to set him some personal goals to be ready for this in January. He is super keen.
That was panic moment number 1 for this past weekend.
yesterday Nathan (5) discovered the same book. With the same result and eerily similar conversation.
I've known for a while that Nathan will pass Aiden. I have posted my concerns about this before.
In jest yesterday DH said that Nathan should be starting grade 1 in January could just use his first day of "high school" work as his official "first day of school".
He thought it great that we can provide what they need in a manner suited to their obvious asynchronous development. I agree.
It didn't stop me from a personal freak out that left me realising that never ever will I even be able to share their future coursework or exam results with anyone we actually know in real life without some sort of backlash.
It sucks. Dh asked this morning if we should get them both IQ tested just so we have quantitative "proof" of ability. I don't see it as necessary because I cannot see it changing anything we do.
I guess I just needed to share this, and ask for reassurance that they will be okay. That I , we will be okay.
not sure what I need really. I don't IRL know anyone else with kids like mine. And I really really right now need to know that it will be okay
