Polarbear-
Thank you. Sincerely.
I knew you would reply

Thank you aeh too.
I have created a file folder and noted all advice. My son was diagnosed with aspergers at 3,and had been in therapy for years. Most people thought he was fine and loved to tell me so. Lots of work. Doing well. School screws up horribly. Lots of regression. Fights with insurance company.
Homeschooling. (That's my summary)

Now... We are moving on to thenext stage. I don't care what anyone calls it : gifted asynchronicities, aspergers, autism, splinter skills, dysgraphia, processing, expressive language delay, introversion, hypersensitivity....
I just want to do my best to help my unusual child grow and prosper.

Goodness gracious. My second appears to be the regular straightforward child for now. We could hope.

I am fully putting to use your advice. I will let you know. Our insurance compant has been forced to pay for the apsrgers treatment and is refusing to cover anything else developmental. I just want to do the best for him. We may start a " educational challenges" savings account!! Lol