It doesn't sound (to me) as though this is a fully fledged
gender identity issue, so much as a keen awareness of
asynchrony.And yes, we HAVE experienced some of these things with our DD-- it isn't that she wants a PARTICULAR outward appearance or identity, even-- she's fairly gender-fluid, in fact-- but that she is uncomfortable (in general) being in a child's skin.
Or was, anyway.
NOW, of course, she's a very lovely teenaged girl, and that comes with it's own problems.
DD often complains that she is a different person inside than the world around her knows-- and that the person she is inside is "real" and that the one that the world sees is just the acceptable "slivers" of who she really is.
I think it is VERY common for highly asynchronous children to feel out of place, and even more common for kids with high cognitive ability to feel a bit uncomfortable in their temporary skins as children-- there are a lot of threads here about various facets of that same issue.
