Since I started this thread within this thread I want to make it clear that not everyone who suggests Autism bugs me. There are different types of people who have suggested ASD for my son. And as my son does exhibit some of the standard criteria, particularly being very anti-social and clearly having on & off issues with anxiety. So I can understand it to some extent. There are friends I have asked for help and it doesn't bother me when they suggest it or bring it up. Particularly when they have a kid with ASD/Asperger's and have real concrete ideas of what the syndrome entails.
Then there are the teachers, school professionals that don't say the words since then they would be required to do something. But heavily imply that if I got a diagnosis there is more accommodations he could be given. It's partly the fact that they HINT that is the most annoying. And that they aren't professionals and can't really SAY. It's part of the fact that it seems more important for them to label then help that I find frustrating.
And then there is the family & friends who give unsolicited advice. Those are the people who I find irritating. Sending book & articles my direction, and hinting that that "it's so sad". The "it's so sad" part bugs me that most. If a kid is Aspergers or not, this is irritating. My son is still is a really wonderful kid if you can get him to warm up to you. Being labeled with ASD isn't like having cancer, it's not going to kill him. It isn't a disease that needs curing. And I get frustrated that society seems bent on "fixing" these kids more than understanding them. Trying to shove them into a square box rather then realizing that the square box isn't good for everyone. And basically trying to be arm chair psychologist who want to diagnosis not knowing the whole equation.
Last edited by bluemagic; 07/08/14 09:47 AM.
