What kind of rules to they have for enrollment in the gifted program? Before you go talk with them you might arm yourself with rules. My son's school tried to drop him out of the honors program at 7th grade, but in our district once tested into the gifted programs you are eligible regardless of grades through 8th grade. Parents can choose to drop them down but the school can't.

Sounds like a school or teacher that doesn't really understand gifted students. Good Luck.

When dealing with teachers, I usually start with the innocent questions first and try not to get on the defense until I have at least heard their side of it. Sometimes there is more going on that I haven't been aware of.