I have seen something fascinating. DH and I were strong high school atheletes and mediocre college atheletes. Still, people excepted us to have athletic children. DS6 is obviously not going to be atheletic. He has a genetic disorder and has been in PT and/or OT off and on since he was an infant. As soon as "people" realize this, it is socially acceptable for us to push him in academics and the arts.