Do they not know how to write an IEP? You can't write IEP goals that are so subjective.

I have been to many an IEP meeting and mine were dialogs between the resource teacher, teacher and others where we hashed out ON THE SPOT the specific goals. Now I did have a fairly accommodating school and I wasn't asking for anything that unusual so it wasn't usually a huge fight.

It defiantly sounds like time to bring in an advocate of some sort, and/or take this to the district level.