I had this problem just the other day with BIL asking DD7 if she ever plays. Don't even know where that came from! I'd taken her to a half-day electrical circuits course where she'd built a cool game from scratch that she bought to a family thing to proudly show everyone. Guess that's all it takes frown
But I kind of don't feel like we should have to explain ourselves. If they want to think we're pushy parents, meh, that's their problem smile