Instead of listing all the things we've tried, let me just share a few guidelines that I've learned going through the process (DD11 has been in four different "schools" in six years):
* Observe your child, they will tell you / show you what they need. If their words ("school is fine") don't match their emotions, trust their emotions -- and trust your own.
* Nothing works forever (or even for very long). HK's 18 month comment actually also applied pretty closely to our DD (kind of an intellectual Moore's Law?).
* The stress of change is a lesser evil than the stress of a bad educational mismatch. Don't let people scare you with how a school change will traumatize your child. Strive for continuity where you can (same out of school activities, keep in touch with friends, etc.) but make the change when necessary.
* Be creative and flexible, hunt down the lesser known educational options. Think outside the box. Let go of judgement (the 20K private may be a worse option than a free charter with a flexible teacher).
* People who get it will get it. People who won't just won't. Don't spend a lot of time and energy trying to convince people who just don't get it. Pick your battles and advocate where it counts most.
* If you let your child accelerate, be ready for them to do that. It will go fast and may seem scary. This board is a great place to get practical advice and commiseration.
