So sorry this is happening! My son says, and I quote, "they do all this bullying prevention stuff with the kids at school but they need to start targeting the staff with that stuff, too. Because the biggest bullies in the school are the paraprofessionals and staff and sometimes even the teachers."
As a side note, a child with autism was in in my son's kindergarten class, he was pretty much non-verbal. He had a one-on-one para. I noticed that the para wasn't warm and nice. I never saw her "mistreat" the boy but she just never smiled... she just wasn't warm or nice. It always bothered me a little. Then there was an event where the grandparents came to the school. Another child's grandmother came and was really disturbed by what she saw in terms of how the para treated the child with autism (and I have no idea what she saw). She reported it. There was brew ha ha but she was moved to higher grade just being a regular para (not one-on-one).