elsie - it's really tough when you have multiple evaulations and professionals all weighing in with different opinions. FWIW, my belief is that the way to trudge through all of this is to always listen to your own gut instinct as a parent - I believe that most of the time parents' instincts are right on target - we're the people who know our child the best, who've spent the most time with them, and who have their best interests at heart. It gets complicated because as parents we don't have all the knowledge that the experts do, but as time goes by and you collect the data, you filter the data you receive with your instincts about the evaluation itself or the person who did the evaluation, or the circumstances of the evaluation etc - and then move forward with your instinct as a parent re which direction to choose and which advice is most meaningful.
Just curious - could you post your ds' NEPSY scores? Those scores might be telling re whether or not there is either a fine motor or executive functioning challenge going on.
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