it's also possible you've hit THE brick wall and the school isn't going to flex no matter how you approach advocacy.
sad, but totally true.
for a long time, i couldn't understand how the teachers/ administration at DD5's old school couldn't recognize the problems (depression/wanting to quit school) but eventually i clued in: they couldn't afford to even
admit there was a problem because they might have to do something. so yeah - i heard a lot of "oh, don't worry, we have a lot of kids who are way ahead of their grade," and "oh, well, school is hard, you know? it's not reasonable to expect her to be happy here all the time."
uhhhh, how about SOME of the time, then? can we aim for that? (apparently not.)
so i have all the empathy in the world for you, somewhereonearth - that stuff starts to make you feel crazy after a while.
