luceinte, has your ds always struggled with executive function, or are the ef issues this past year something new/situational? If they are something that has always been an issue, I think I'd try to focus on which school setting you can best address them in for the coming year - and by address, I don't mean get by easiest, but instead, which school setting offers support and the opportunity for your ds to learn/improve his ef skills?
I totally agree with this.
It would also be worth seeing someone qualified to evaluate if there is ADHD or Asperger's going on here. If there is, you'll find a strategy for dealing with it; if not, then at least you know.
If it's motivation more than executive function, I'd be inclined to put him in the public school and have him repeat 11th grade - not what he wants and maybe not the rock-star best solution for a bright kid, but... he had an amazing opportunity to get what he wanted (cc) and he didn't live up to what he needed to do to be there. NOTE - I would only let it go at this *if* I, as his parent, was certain that the lack of turning in homework and the bad grades were related to not trying when he had the full ability to do well.
And in a young adult, it is very hard to know whether it's really an EF deficit that underlies a motivation problem. By this age, if a person has trouble accomplishing what they want to accomplish, they have learned to expect themselves to fail, and so motivation seems like a problem even though it may still not the main problem.
Be sure, if you're seeing it as lack of motivation, that the lack of motivation didn't happen because of giving up due to challenges with ef skills.
Yes, that is what I mean.
DeeDee
