I'm having a disagreement with my ex over our son. Last year, ds (then 15), asked to go to community college the upcoming year, instead of heading into 11th grade at his private school.
I asked for a guidance meeting at his high school to ask what they thought, and was surprised that they were for the plan! Ex also agreed (though he later said that he hadn't understood the plan, and wouldn't have agreed if he had!
Ds has been taking only 1 or 2 courses at a time over the past year, and (supposedly) homeschooling 11th grade. His "admission test" scores got him invited to the honors program, but he has had exactly the same issues as in hs-- learns the material in a snap, then forgets (or "forgets") to turn in work. He's only passed half his courses this year.
So, ds, ex, and I all agree he needs something different this coming school year. Ex has declared by fiat that ds will go to public hs (private is no longer possible). If ds goes there, he will have to "repeat" 11th grade. It is a HUGE school, and he has social anxiety. It's a pretty good school, but there is bullying. He's still going to have the issues of an incredible learning capacity and nonexistent executive skills.
Ds is no help-- he says he doesn't know what he wants, but he doesn't want any of the choices! I don't know what to do. Suggestions for how to handle a 16 year old who won't DO anything, and his father, who wants to send him back to high school as a "punishment" for it?
