Thanks for the insights, HowlerKarma! I was trying not to write an epic, and I think I left out information/didn't express myself very well. I'm not against ds going to ps, per se; I just want to make sure we (ex, ds and I) know all sides of the issue.
I think your positing that the faculty of his hs wanted ds out because he was a pain is unfair to him and to them. Ds was not a big problem. In fact, they liked him and wanted him to stay. Also, these people are dedicated educators who wouldn't send a kid off to fail just to make their lives easier.
I knew full well what the consequences could be if ds was not ready for cc, as he thought he was. It was a failure, but a well-reasoned one! Also, I don't see going to public hs as a "punishment;" that is how ds' father presented it to him!
Maybe public hs is the best option. Thank you for helping me think it out.
