DeeDee, Thanks for the link. It was very interesting. Also, DGS is in OT, vision therapy and counseling. My DS's Medicaid is paying for those, thankfully, as we live in a rural area and our school is not so great at actually providing services.
HowlerKarma, I always enjoy your insights. And yes, a good deal of our instructional time will be spent on social skills in small group settings, like Cub Scouts, and also learning to transition from one activity to another and especially in social situations.
Also, we can spend time on life skills, like problem solving and time management. Oh, and why we NEED to expend effort, especially when something is hard - the school would let him run to the resource room every time he got even a little stressed.
Thanks to everyone. I am encouraged. DGS is out of school for the summer as of yesterday and is so relaxed today without the stress of school! We are going to let him relax and decompress for a few weeks, and then we are doing day camp.
leahchris