our whole family has this problem: DD5, her dad, and me. it can make for horrendous days - the handy thing is that for some reason, i've been aware that i've been actively managing this problem pretty much my whole life. i think as a kid i must have seen how different i was from everyone around me and worked out some strategies? the very best tool i have is mindfulness: simply to acknowledge the system failure (with a smile) and then reset.
my husband and kid had a very tough time for the first few years - the negative thoughts/reactions between them were very extreme, but over time they are beginning to notice their big feelings/big reactions and redirect to an alternate behaviour. we're not at the point where they're preempting the explosions - but i am sure that's on its way. i was personally completely terrible at this for about 25 years and still have to remind myself daily!
Last edited by doubtfulguest; 05/10/13 09:10 AM.
