Mom2MrQ - you know what missing for the DSM? "Neurologically odd - not otherwise specified"...
Looking at your OP I want to put out there that when our DD was diagnosed there were criteria that we didn't think she met, but when asked the right questions in fact she absolutely did, and other things we thought were very aspie that the professionals weren't at all interested in. It was an interesting experience. And different professionals were interested in different things. I have a particularly vivid memory of telling a story about my three kids , trying to convey a particular point about my DD who has Aspergers, the paed wasn't very interested in my point at all, but went into a lengthy spiel of his own about how something completely different he pulled out of the story was a brilliant indicator of her issues.
