I agree with Dbat. Telling our son about the prospective grade skip was the spark of hope he needed to get through a really rough first quarter this year. I promised him that if the skip did not happen, he WOULD be going to another school where his needs would be addressed. I did not want him to think that his current (awful) situation would continue unchecked. He was finally moved at the beginning of the second quarter and has done very well since. I have found during this process that my overall parenting philosophy of including the child in decisions and plans which involve the child is the way to go. He was asked what he would prefer each step of the way and was present at the meeting to formally determine placement so he could express his opinions and ask questions. I don't want him to see this process (or any other) as something that is done for or to him without his knowledge and input!
