Are you working on getting her evaluated for autism? I would consider doing that, and letting the psych know that you are working on that. Sometimes just informing these people that you are working on having your child evaluated completely changes the way they feel about your kids (suddenly they are much more sensitive and concerned, instead of irritated and annoyed.)
Yup. I've had this experience too
Here too. Also often true of peers; DS's peers were afraid of him until a great teacher educated everyone about his challenges. He has had a lot of support.
Sometimes if you equip people to do the right or helpful thing, they do it.
Thanks for your thoughts; DeeDee, I'm definitely going to check out that Secret Agent Society thing. Yes, we have had DD evaluated--about six times now, at various points and for different reasons. Interestingly, none of any of those evaluations says "DD has x"; they all suggest possibilities. The consensus seems to be that she is on the spectrum, but she doesn't meet all the criteria--she has social issues in the "A" group in the DSM, but doesn't meet the "B" group criteria (the stereotypic/repetitive behavior stuff). So I guess that would make the correct diagnosis PDD-NOS. I haven't worried too much about what it is exactly because we have been in private schools so far and so IEPs aren't relevant (yet).
Actually the group was suggested by the school but it's at a completely independent practice; the school is private and very small and doesn't have any staff people who are psychs or SLPs or anything like that. The group is at the same practice where DD was previously evaluated and is also where the school asked us to take DD for individual therapy sessions (which we did for awhile until they stopped asking for them), and the psych running the group knows all of that and has read through the evaluations, etc., and was communicating with the individual therapy psych about DD, etc., etc. So it's not like she doesn't know about DD and all the stuff we've been doing.
Thanks very much for all your thoughts, again; it's been really helpful. It's so nice to be able to bounce ideas off people who understand
