This might be way off but I was just reading yesterday in Tony Attwood's Guide to Aspergers that for girls with Aspergers this is a very common red flag.
I'm not sure if you have any other concerns?
It might be something unrelated but reading that I had to reply.
It's interesting that you bring this up. Since she was a toddler I have had my concerns about Aspergers but then she seemed to improve. She still has quirks and things I see that concern me but since finding out she was highly gifted I just attributed these quirks to her being highly gifted.
I was actually just about to post about her trouble with friends. She has friends but doesn't seem to need them or play with them the way they would like to play. I try to schedule playdates and she actually would prefer to not have playdates with her classmates. However, she enjoys playing with her older sister so it's not like she doesn't play or interact with kids at all. I just find she prefers to play with kids that she can boss around or control the play where she often directs them step by step what they should do, where they should stand, what they should say, etc.... or teach them.
