No you are not the only one who gets flashbacks. That is of course part of the problem. We want so much for our children to have an easier time of it than us.

I don't protect my children from unfairness, I sympathise and ask them if it is something that needs to be addressed or something that won't matter much in a few days. Sometimes I just say yes it is very unfair and it must be really upsetting for you but there is really nothing we can do to change it - how do we stop it happening again.