Some combination of epoh and Dude's answer here would also be mine.

My DD is seldom intrinsically motivated to do the things others place value upon.

She is NOT motivated by anything that she thinks is both: a) graded, and b) has little to offer her in the way of intrinsic reward.

I offer the second caveat to note that she is very passionate about community service and about helping others. But about school, beyond making sure that she has straight A's (or A+ grades), it's merely about playing the game and it has nothing to offer her in the way of reward, never mind actual learning. She goes through the motions, and as long as she's reasonably compliant, we call it a day and leave it alone.

She likes to learn. School isn't about "learning" for her except in quick flashes, so she's not wrong to feel unmotivated.

She is motivated to read, to role-play game with her friends, and to produce art (both physical and digital), and to help other people (community service, tutoring, etc.).


Schrödinger's cat walks into a bar. And doesn't.