My HG DD8 passes MG DD11 a litte while ago.
I saw that was going to happen and 9 months ago, I spent a day alone with my old DD and talked about it. She understood that her little sister is smarter. I stressed that everyone has their destiny and have their strength (her being more sporty) it's not good enough to represent the school but I did not tell her that :-)..
She may try harder and she can be a High achiever and she can always stay ahead of her sister. But she decided to go with her own pace. I try to avoid heads on competition between the two. They took sample test on Explore last month and DD8 got every questions right but DD11 got 2 wrong. All they knew was they both did great. When she was alone, I explained DD11 what she did wrong.
They both wanted to take Explore and I have to share the results when the time comes. I believe jealousy can be controled when the parents continue equal attention. When the high achiever, smarter kid recieves all the attention, that's when the resentment will set in.
It works for us for now.
I wish they come with a manual for parenting..........
