b) you're doing it ALL WRONG. Oh, and you're screwing your kid up for life. This is a peculiar thing about anything which is more-or-less an invisible difference-- nobody thinks twice about telling you that YOU are the one "making" your child so non-normative.
To me that's always the key difference between people who understand the range of skills kids can have and those who think they all even out if you just give more worksheets or do kumon. What was universal in the article is that the kids wanted to do what they were doing, whether it was the piano or that masters course that one kid was doing just cause, and that they had parents who facilitated for them but not in the tiger mom way. I often find myself torn about how much is facilitating particularly when he is on the verge of those big leaps or next level developments. I find that my DS seems to provide the answer about when he needs more and when to lay off. But I have to be listening, which is tough when all the other stuff of life is there too, but if I don't pay attention to it, it always come back to bite me, because he needs me to do that. Which is why I found the point about it being like a disability very apt. You can't really ignore it - and that what all those you did this people miss..
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