His teacher says he is not so disruptive and he can be re-directed. She really just hates medication. She says some of her students have had such bad experiences with the meds that she would rather not do the scales. She also believes most of his problems are related to anxiety and being afraid to fail (perfectionism?). She will do the scales she just wants to make sure we get a good diagnosis, and don't just medicate without thought.
I hope she will fill out the scales without bias. Just as it is not a teacher's place to recommend (or insist on) meds, it's also not her place to say that meds are always a bad idea. She is not your medical or behavioral expert, and she does not have the authority to make that call.
IMO you should find the most expert doc you can, have them evaluate all the evidence carefully, and work through the available options with that doc.
For him, having a brain he can rely on has been key in reducing his fear level.
True in our DS's case as well.
DeeDee
