UGH! I'm so sorry this is happening ABQMom. I don't know what I'd do in your situation - I'll have to think about it.
I have a much less serious case of this going on at the moment but on a smaller scale. I can't even make up my mind re my own ds and what to do!
What do you think the repercussions will be if you send an email just stating what's going on re the not accepting email and other IEP violations (without saying they are violations, just pointing out that they are part of the accommodations outlined in the IEP) - send it to the IEP team or to the principal? I'm thinking that no matter what you do, you need to document this for the future in case you run into other violations that you ultimately do want to fight.
polarbear