It seems like so many of you are moving to a different city, quitting a job to homeschool, getting a second one to pay private school tuition, taking on loans to finance your gifted child's enrichment.....
OK, stop. You have nothing to feel guilty about. There is always going to be some other parent, parenting some other child, in some life situation totally unlike yours. You make the choices that are best (or at least, least worst) for you as a parent, for your kid, for your family, for your life situation, and you have nothing to feel guilty about. I suspect most of those choices are being made by people who feel they have no less-worse choice, and they don't have anything to feel guilty about, either. But you don't have to make the choice that was least-worst for them, in order to have made the choice that was least-worst for you.
If it makes you feel any better, our family would not move for DD's education, even if there were what appeared to be the perfect school placement for her, because that would not be the least-worst choice for our family as a whole. We won't send her to the local gifted school for a lot of reasons, some of which have to do with onerous driving and high tuition. I'd consider homeschooling if I thought that was an otherwise-good choice, but I wouldn't quit my job to do it, even though our family could survive without my income. We're contemplating private school for middle school, but "we couldn't afford it if one of us lost our job," really has us motivated to find some less-worse alternative; it would be completely off the table if it required taking on debt.
(I hear you, though. My hot-button issue is Ruf's levels of giftedness, which "so many" people here seem to be enamored of. They're utter hokum with respect to my kid, though. She'd be a 1-verging-on-2 using those "common milestones," but I'd be extremely surprised if she were a 4 rather than 5 going by IQ equivalent. Some people have early-bloomer, showy kids. I don't.)
