Thanks everyone again!
Grinity - he has been at this school for two years already, on the same playground with the same kids etc. It's a new year here for us (the school year started only on the 18th January), but it's a Gifted School, and the teacher has his file and entry assessment done when he was 2.5 years old. They KNOW what he is capable of.
Update:
Meeting scheduled for Tuesday morning 10am. I will have half an hour only, so am compiling an e-mail now to address the concerns so that we can trouble shoot instead.
His teacher called me aside Friday at pickup to chat, she was very open and concerned (obviously she has been in th ejob less than 8 weeks and already a meeting! lol)
The usual platitudes were exchanged: he is so small, youngest in class, can't give 3rd grade maths as he will get bored in 3rd grade, we prefer to go wider instead of deeper (I asked why they have to be mutually exclusive). And it went on and on. Eventually she asked what I wanted. And I said that he wants what his friend in 2nd grade gets - spelling tests, projects, homework etc. So she has suggested she put together a project book for him - where he will get assignments daily across a variety of subjects to do.
I asked for writing, drawing, thinking, applying knowledge kinda things. She still has to get permission but is hoping to formalise it in the meeting and start on wednesday.
I will still push for more in-class differentiation too, but at least this way she can see what he is really capable of. And she agreed to "substantially" increase his reader level and see what happens.
I am scared to believe it, but I really really hope it happens. Will give you another update tomorrow after the meeting.
