Annette:

My dd's preschool was indeed a dream come true. Her teacher swears by "the naeyc curriculum." Here is a link to finding a naeyc program in your area. You may not get as lucky as we were but it could help point you in the direction of a school that would support your ds.

http://www.naeyc.org/families/search

Another program dd absolutely loved was Music Together. We have lots of music programs in our area but this one really tapped into her creativity.

http://www.musictogether.com/