I may not have explained it well. She perceived that one friend's feelings were likely to be hurt and wasn't sure how to not hurt her while also staying friends with the other girl, who wants her attention as well. I think my reaction as a child would have been "Um...these two friends both want to be friends with me and they don't like each other. Oh well." I really had no idea how to advise her!
You may sense some resistance to ASD as a diagnosis for her. That's because I have some. I see some traits, but it's shadowy and gray. How can a child with no social difficulties with peers be ASD? Isn't social impairment almost the primary symptom? At times I suspect the issue may be more our parenting or something, since most of the problems are seen at home only. It may be that we need better training as parents more than anything. Yet I feel we deal with DS, who is more typical, just fine.
The other issue I always have with high-functioning ASD discussions is that the conversation, especially in GT kids, always seem to end up being along the lines of "Well, that doesn't rule it out...that doesn't rule it out, either..." I then think--is there anything that DOES rule it out, or in? What is this diagnosis really about anyway? It seems highly fuzzy. I know the DSM stuff has been changed lately...
