@Pemberley - Thanks a bunch. I can understand how it might take the kids a while to feel comfortable with him. Especially since he does still have fits, just not as often.
@aculady - I will bring them up with the psychiatrist. They did a rather long eval when we first went, and Asperger's wasn't mentioned. I don't know a whole lot about Asperger's but my understanding is that the kids tend to lack the ability to see/notice social queues, right? DS totally see them, he just doesn't feel like he should have to do anything he doesn't want to, if that makes sense.
I kind of feel like he's in a bit of a spiral where anxiety makes his hyper-focusing worse, and that makes social interactions worse, which increases his anxiety....
